Make the relationship you long
for a reality...

even if you're overwhelmed by family life,
feeling undervalued, and currently on a
different page than your partner.

Registration is currently closed!

but...

Let's stay connected!

We're sorry you couldn't join us this time, but let's stay in touch about
future offerings + ideas, and we'll let you know next time we offer Tending To Us.

Can you see yourself in this
all-too-common progression?

Fall in love → get married → have kids → life becomes a shit show →
disconnect and resentment build →
harm is caused → connection fades → fear builds and defenses go up →
the marriage starts to crumble

Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle and afraid of where you’re heading. Maybe you’re near the end of the progression and barely hanging on. Or maybe you’ve already been through the whole heart-wrenching mindf*ck and feel determined not to repeat it.

Wherever you find yourself,
it’s 100% possible to break this soul-crushing relationship cycle
and take things in a whole new direction toward thriving.

You deserve a partnership that feels safe, inspiring, and super supportive.

You deserve to feel whole, to be seen, and to experience joy and ease and fun on the regular.

But we don’t live in a culture that supports our thriving–not as individuals nor in our relationships–so if that’s what we want, we have to roll up our sleeves, get creative, and figure it out for ourselves.

Let me help you fast track that process.

Tending To Us is the relationship course I wish I’d had...

back when motherwhelm was my norm, kid chaos was our family soundtrack, and my marriage felt messier than the backseat of our minivan.

It’s my response to hearing “I wish my husband understood this!” from hundreds of my clients (all of whom are moms) over the past eight years.

And it’s the toolbox I believe every progressive parent needs in order to build a solid partnership, despite all that’s stacked against us.

Sign up with your partner or by yourself
(if you're ready and they're not),

and over the course of two weeks, we'll explore:

Why parenthood sucks the life out of romantic relationships (and how to keep that from happening)
Why progressive parents are especially susceptible to relationship ruin
How both men and women’s conditioning is holding us back from the love we so deeply desire
How we all need to be both more generous and more selfish if thriving is the goal
The #1 reason women “nag” and men pull away (and how to end this painful cycle for good)
Wounds and resentments: how to work with, heal from, and prevent them to begin with

How to be a grown ass partner, even if immaturity and toxicity were modeled for you growing up
What turns her on and what makes him want to take initiative
How to infuse your life with more freedom and lightness, no matter how many kids you have and plates you’re spinning
Why men who go to therapy are the sexiest
Why women who go to therapy often get angrier
Why the “old together in rocking chairs” measure of relationship success is complete bs
How to know when it’s time to grow and when it’s time to go

Designed for busy, stretched-thin parents (both couples and individuals) who want to do relationships better, this course is all meat and power tools and no airy-fairy fluff.

Why this course?

Because it’s specifically designed to speak to the most important and also life-changing pieces of relationship and personal discord, while also being to-the-point, practical, and time efficient.

Why me?

Because I have worked intimately with women for nearly a decade and know their hearts, their struggles, and their dreams. AND… I also hold huge empathy for men who have to navigate a society that conditions them into a tiny and close-minded box that their whole being has to fit in - one that doesn’t model healthy masculinity and then expects them to somehow show up as a whole, healed person. The game is rigged for everyone, y’all.

Why now?

Because I know you don’t want to waste another moment feeling disconnected, resentful, ambivalent, or stuck. Because life is short and you deserve the quality of connection your heart longs for.

How This Works + What You'll Get

After you sign up (by yourself or with your partner)...

Immediately dive into the pre-course exercises and explore as deeply as you’d like

Connect, process, question and commune with other like-minded relationship tenders on our private Facebook group before and throughout the course.

Join us for (4) Zoom calls (or watch the replays) over the course of two weeks

Become better acquainted with yourself and your partner through assessment tools and connection guides that cut through the fog along the way

Watch or listen to ultra-informative and inspiring guest interviews as you have time

*All interviews will also be in audio-only format so you can listen to them like a podcast

Feel more confident braving essential conversations with your partner, trying new things, and speaking your truth using your new shared language

A note to women:

This is the course you’ve been waiting for. The one that puts words to your frustrations, fears, and longings in a way that he can truly hear. The one that gives you both a shared language to grow from together.

A note to men:

Man-shaming will not be tolerated in this course. Your struggles and frustrations are valid, I know many good men and imagine you’re probably one of them, and I see you as absolutely essential to us creating a more beautiful world. We need you.

Stop the cycle, learn to better tend to yourself and each other, and take control of your narrative before any more time is wasted living a draining, resentment-filled life.

Who will benefit most from this course?

Tending To Us is all about upgrading our awareness so that we might better understand and learn to tend to ourselves, our partners, and our relationship. It’s also about interrupting passed-down and conditioned behaviors, patterns, and cycles that keep us feeling unfulfilled and stuck. It’s about creating conditions for thriving–even with kids in the mix--despite the systems that are stacked against us.

The perspectives and tools I’m bringing to this course have radically changed my life as a heterosexual, monogamous woman, for the better. Though I have no doubt that those in same-sex and/or non-monogamous relationships could benefit from what I’ll be sharing, I won’t pretend to understand the unique complexities of those lived experiences. In order to teach with integrity, I stick with what I know, and I know the challenges and joys of a long-term marriage, progressive parenting, conscious uncoupling, midlife dating, and intentional, mature relationship building well.

Please reach out if you have any questions about whether or not this course would be a good fit for you.

But Beth, you’re divorced!

I sure am. Contrary to what some might think, I believe this gives me extra cred when it comes to teaching about relationships.

Here’s why:

I was married for 18 years and loved my husband very much. I stayed, despite the many things that weren’t working, because I believe in marriage, I take my commitments very seriously, and the last thing I wanted was to break up my family.
We were in couples therapy every week (sometimes twice a week!) trying to save the marriage. I also read countless books, did loads of 1:1 therapy, and dug deep into the harm I had caused and patterns I needed to change within myself, regardless of what my husband chose to change or what happened with the marriage. I can honestly say that I did everything I could possibly do short of continuing to abandon myself, to make it work.
When it was finally clear that it was time to go, we ended things amicably, kindly, and generously (thanks to three years in therapy together!). The marriage wasn’t salvageable, but our friendship was.
Three years of dating before meeting my current partner gave me loads of insight into myself (my needs, my desires, my preferences, and my saboteurs), others in the dating world, and the essential skill of letting your heart break as many times as necessary in order to find/and or create the love you long for. I learned not to settle, how to ask for what I want, how important it is to be clear about what I need in order to thrive, and what feels good to my nervous system.

These past three years with my partner (a beautifully self-aware, healthy, supportive, bright, and present grown-ass man) have shown me that what I always dreamed of in a relationship really is possible, and how different things can feel when you (heal enough to be able to) lead with compatibility, self-awareness, and self-compassion.

In addition to navigating my own relationships with loads of intentionality (and therapy), I’ve supported hundreds of mothers along their growth and healing path, and amassed loads of relationship perspective and tools along the way.

If you’re of the “together ‘till we die no matter how miserable we are” mindset, this is probably not the course for you. But if you’re growth-minded, curious, and willing to self-examine AND you either:

love your partner but know things could be better between you,

aren’t sure where things are headed with your relationship and are seeking clarity,

or you want to learn how not to repeat the same unhealthy patterns in your next relationship...

Please join us!

The Price for This Course Will Never Be This Low Again!

$297

*Sign up by yourself or with your partner, the cost is the same!

By the end of each 1.5 hour Zoom call (join us live or watch the replays), you’ll walk away with clarity, inspiration, practical tools to put to use immediately, and conversation templates to make it easier to connect with your partner.

The four live call dates are:

(join us live or watch the replays)

Saturday, April 22 - 8:30am PST/11:30am EST

Tuesday, April 25 - 10am PST/1pm EST

Tuesday, May 2 - 10am PST/1pm EST

Saturday, May 6 - 8:30am PST/11:30am EST

Additionally, you'll receive pre-course reflection questions, and then PDFs with handy tools and visuals to help you each take inventory, soften hard conversations, and make sense of your personal needs, values, and more!

About Our Guest Speakers

(They're freaking amazing!)

Jimmy Knowles
AKA "Jimmy on Relationships" on IG and TikTok

You've likely seen Jimmy's often hilarious, viral videos that teach about gender equality, therapy, "me time," intimacy, and more! In his interview with Beth for this course, this father of four shares about the atomic bomb in his marriage (that he set off!), betrayals you might not realize you're instigating, what male vulnerability can look like, where affairs stem from, what he wishes more women understood about themselves, and what it really means when your partner won’t do the dishes.

Jordan Shapiro, PhD
Author of Father Figure: How to Be a Feminist Dad

Jordan Shapiro, PhD is a globally celebrated American thought leader. He is an international speaker and consultant whose fresh perspective combines psychology, philosophy, and economics in unexpected ways. In his most recent book, Father Figure: How to be a Feminist Dad, Shapiro offers a norm-shattering perspective on fatherhood, family, and gender essentialism. This thoughtful exploration of dad-psychology—presented from an archetypal perspective—challenges our familiar assumptions about the origins of so-called traditional parenting roles.

In Jordan's interview, he dispels the myth of nature vs. nurture, shines a light on the invisible infrastructure needed to parent well, talks about the "lone wolf" story/conditioning that is hurting men, and shares what's really going on when you have an especially bad fight with your partner.

Jason Frishman, PhD
Founder of The JourneyMen

Jason is the founder of the men's group "JourneyMen," and is also a men's coach and psychologist who helps organizations inspire men to lead more powerfully. He also guides fathers to uncover meaning, presence and fun at home, in community and at work. In their interview, Jason shares with Beth his take on the advice "never go to bed angry," the most important part of he and his wife's disagreement process, how you can still get triggered as a therapist, the heartbreaking thing he hears from his guy friends, and why men connecting to each other is an act of resistance.

Britta Bushnell, PhD
Author of Transformed By Birth

In addition to being an author, Britta (she/her) is a veteran childbirth educator, celebrated speaker, mythologist, wife and mother, and specialist in childbirth, relationship, and parenting. For over 20 years, Dr. Bushnell has worked with individuals and couples as they prepare for the life-changing experiences of giving birth and becoming parents. Her work has been enriched by her doctoral education in mythology and psychology, her years spent as a co-owner of Birthing From Within, as well as her dedicated study of solution-focused brief therapy, storytelling, and skills for supporting intimate relationships.

In this interview with Beth, Britta shares all sorts of wisdom about the work she's put into her 25-year relationship, how the illusion of control messes us up, the gifts of differing parenting energies, helpful language for different parenting roles and how to better "tag out" of them, and the reason why some of us might feel sexually flat.

ABOUT ME, YOUR INSTRUCTOR

I'm Beth Berry, and I have a revolution in my bones.

It began when I was seventeen and pumping milk in the bathroom of my high school for my now-grown eldest daughter, and has gradually evolved into a tender, fiery conviction to reclaim motherhood, fatherhood, and marriage from every disempowering personal and cultural story I can wrap my head and heart around.

As an author, life coach, group facilitator, teacher, and mother of four daughters (ages 16, 18, 21, and 28), I’ve spent thousands of hours mentoring and supporting mothers through their process of self-discovery, self-reclamation, dream realization, and community cultivation.

You can find my writing and voice on my Revolution From Home website and social media pages, within the curriculum of my year-long MotherWorthy groups, in my published writing, and in my book, Motherwhelmed.

In this course, a sneak peak into MY RELATIONSHIP!

As a part of this course, you will get an exclusive interview with myself and my partner, Jeremy. I have been private about this relationship because I value it so much, but in this conversation - hosted by Brandy Ferner of Adult Conversation - you will get a peek into the secrets of our relationship, find out what we messed up in our marriages, learn about the power of compatibility, and hear us talk about how we love now that we know better.

I've also included another interview titled "When Tending Leads to Ending," where I tell Brandy all about my journey of uncoupling - all the things I did to save an ultimately irreparable marriage (but some things worked!), how I knew it was time to finally let go, things I wish I'd known (the good and the bad) before I started dating, and a lot more.

I don't want to miss all this...
Sign Me Up!

Who This Is For
+
Who It’s NOT For

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Tending To Us is for you if:

You love your partner (even if you don’t like them much these days)
You consider yourself a progressive, open-minded person
You long to model thriving for your kids
You are willing to self-examine and look at the part you play in your relationship struggles

Tending To Us is NOT for you if:

You’re looking for tools to weaponize against your partner
You’re wanting a quick fix (hint: that’s not a thing)
You’d rather play the victim card than do the work and own your shit
You’re okay with settling for the status quo
You aren’t interested in creating a more beautiful life and growing into the best version of yourself

Equity Seats

I offer discounted “Equity Seats” for BIPOC parents, rooted in a reparations framework/mindset. This is my contribution to Black, Indigenous, Latinx, Asian, and mixed-race parents struggling on the front lines and navigating the intersectionality of their identities. I see you, and I greatly value your presence in this space and contribution to this experience.

Your Hesitations Make Sense...

“My partner’s probably not going to do this with me.”

You can’t make them do the work or speed up their process, but you can learn more about your own patterns within the relationship. It only takes one person to break a cycle. Join us by yourself and learn valuable relationship-tending skills you can use throughout your life.

“It feels almost impossible to find the time for another course.”

Believe me, I get it. AND I know how much time you likely spend ruminating about your relationship. That’s not going to change until you change it. I promise, learning to better tend to your relationship and to yourself will be a massive time and energy saver over the long run.

“We’ve tried therapy, to no avail.”

I’m a HUGE fan of couples therapy, and there are many reasons it doesn’t always work. Sometimes it’s not the right therapist for us, sometimes it’s not the right timing, and sometimes there’s a foundation of understanding that needs to be laid first before one or both of you is ready to do the work. This course is that foundation.

“I’m afraid this course could lead to my marriage ending.”

It’s my goal to help you both feel freer and more whole, not to encourage you to stay or leave. We can’t possibly know where our paths will lead us when we set off on a growth journey. Following our inner compass, however, leads to an authentic life–an aligned life–and frees us of the weight of self-denial.

“I don’t want to air our dirty laundry in public.”

You won’t have to! Given the nature of this course (short, relatively accessible, and packing a punch), you will be able to show up, take in what’s being taught, and work through the exercises on your own time, without sharing your stories. There will be space to submit your questions to Beth (anonymous or not), but that doesn't require you to speak up on calls.

What People Are Saying...

"I don't know how to describe my gratitude for Beth. I feel different. I can navigate my first family while staying intact. I never thought I would see the day I didn't fall into my old behaviors/patterns around them. She has helped my relationship with my husband too. And most importantly, my relationship with myself. I can be more present with my family and give more authentically because I’m not living from constant resentment and guilt. She truly has a gift."
-Jamie Thompson

"Beth, you are truly an inspiration to me. I'm adding you to my list of life gurus/models, right along with Tara Brach and Esther Perel. Your wisdom and passion has the potential to help so many mothers and families and truly to change this complex world. Thank you for following this thread in your own life and then bringing it to us in such an accessible way."
-Jessica Weiss

"Beth leads with incredible wisdom and insight. Her reflections on motherhood and womanhood have made such a big impact on me. Her warmth, compassion and genuine care really touched me and helped give me courage to look more deeply at myself and my life.”
-Katherine

"Beth might be the most down to earth, truest, most authentic human I've ever met. She is calm with steady confidence. Centered and grounded and she pulls wisdom for each individual circumstance like a true craft. I don't know how she does it. But it is a gift to receive."
-Jamie

"Beth has beautiful curated content on self-awareness, healing, and community building, in a way that lets participants find their own truths. She recognizes the differences in our contexts and backgrounds, and celebrates and supports them in the goal of creating nurturing and nourishing connections in our communities."
-Carrie Holt

"I really adore Beth's facilitation style. She is a truly gifted listener and leads with her heart. She is not bossy, but instead guides with grace and a subtle, warm power. Her commitment to each and every member of her groups, as well as her deep commitment to supporting mothers and questioning the status quo around motherhood are undeniable, always loving and served our group so very well."
-Leonie

"Beth’s abilities to listen, empathize and hold space for each and every one of us while developing relevant topics for discussion are exceptional. She has this beautiful ability to bring people together in a way that feels inviting, effortless and free of judgement."
-Melanie

"Beth is a compassionate, disarming listener. I felt that when I shared, she really heard and understood me. I love the way she breaks things down to examine, it's really a gift."
-Jessica

"Beth is gifted at creating a space where hard things are easy to talk about. The loving, and open women she attracts to her gatherings have truly made me feel seen and not alone in my quest for changing the status quo."
-Elizabeth

"Beth is skilled at giving words to otherwise unspoken cultural norms and expectations that have tremendous impact on our everyday experience of parenthood. She holds space to examine and challenge these influences so that parents can choose more grounded, meaningful, fulfilling paths for themselves and their families."
-Anonymous

"Beth is a skilled facilitator with a ton of great resources that she weaves into the discussion easily."
-Anonymous

Still not sure you want to spend the money?

Consider this...

The average cost of divorce in the US is $12,900
Couples’ therapy will typically run you between $100-$250 per hour
Buying self-help books only improves things if you’re both reading them (and most are written for women, not men)
A typical date night (including paying a babysitter) will likely run you $150 (and may not result in authentic connection)

WE'VE GOT YOU COVERED

Money-Back Guarantee

If, after the first call, you decide Tending To Us isn't for you, simply let us know and we will issue you a full refund.

*No refunds will be issued after Monday, April 24, 2023.

HAVE A QUESTION?

FAQs

How is the course structured?

This course consists of 4 live calls (which you can attend or watch the replay of)...

Saturday, April 22 - 8:30am PST/11:30am EST
Tuesday, April 25 - 10am PST/1pm EST
Tuesday, May 2 - 10am PST/1pm EST
Saturday, May 6 - 8:30am PST/11:30am EST

When you sign up, you will immediately receive a welcome video from me, a handy, visual tool for taking inventory of your current situation ("Taking Stock"), access to my interview with Jimmy Knowles (aka @jimmy_on_relationships).

Before each call, you will be receiving access to more guest speaker interviews, along with a variety of additional tools and PDFs, including a Softening Hard Conversations guide and also a quick Needs and Values Assessment (that will shine a light on your personal priorities).

This course has been designed by parents for parents, built intentionally to fit around your busy life and other commitments, but also knowing that tending to your relationship requires (and deserves!) prioritization.

How do I sign up with my partner?

Just sign up as usual (the cost is the same), and you'll have an option to add their details in later, before the course starts. We encourage this so that one partner isn't taking on more of the mental load than the other regarding this course.

Can I sign up without my partner?

Yes, you can sign up alone, or with your partner - either way is a step toward tending to your relationship and yourself! The price is the same regardless of if you sign up alone or together.

When are the four live calls with Beth?

Each call is 1.5 hours. If you can't make any of these days/times - just catch the replay!

April 22 (Sat.) - 11:30am EST/8:30am PST
April 25 (Tues.) - 1pm EST/10am PST
May 2 (Tues.) - 1pm EST/10am PST
May 6 (Sat.) - 11:30am EST/8:30am PST

Will the live calls be recorded?

Yes, all calls will be recorded so you can watch when works best for you. You will be able to access them from your personal membership area, via the mobile app, or website.

Is this course designed to best support parents of children within a certain age range?

No. This is a course for all parents at all stages.

I'm introverted, the idea of striking up 'small talk' conversations intimidates/scares me?

Hello fellow introvert! This course is mainly education, you doing work on your own and with your partner, and asking your questions via a Google form (anonymously or not). There is a FB group element that is completely optional for those who want it, but no social interaction is required.

Are there equity seats available?

I offer discounted “Equity Seats” for BIPOC people, rooted in a reparations framework/mindset. This is my contribution to Black, Indigenous, Latinx, Asian, and mixed-race parents struggling on the front lines and navigating the intersectionality of their identities. I see you, and I greatly value your presence in this space and contribution to this experience.

What is your refund policy?

I am committed to making this course a resource that really works for you and your partner. If, after the first call, you decide Tending To Us isn't for you, simply let us know and we will issue you a full refund. *No refunds will be issued after Monday, April 24, 2023.